Overcome Starting and Stopping

Starting and stopping is a habit that has been formed. Do you want a new found freedom and confidence? Learn how to overcome the cycle of starting and stopping.

I am a visionary and tend to have really great ideas that cause an emotional high of excitement.  I would plan and go for a good while before I found myself crashing from loss of energy, lack of time and failure to plan the steps beyond my initial ones – that seemed so great.  This blog has seen a bit of the stop and go motion. The culprit is actually why I initially started to write it in the first place – I found myself fluctuating between my once too busy life and the balanced lifestyle. I choose now, of healthy choices, work, rest and family. Valuing my convictions to change helped me to stay strong in my resolve and overcome starting and stopping habits in my life.

Life can be so busy. We can be overwhelmed with stuff and activities which draw us in different directions at any time of any day. Our intentions could be really great to follow through on some amazing mission, but unless we are grounded in self-discipline, we will continue onto another season of starting and stopping and then be left wondering why that thing that seemed so right, didn’t end up doing anything. Do I sound like I know what I am talking about? I do. I really do, but I also now know what it takes to take to keep going.

In life, we are motivated to start things due to discomfort, competitiveness, compassion, or any slew of emotional reasons. Unless the why goes deeper than a surface feeling, we are likely to be caught in a lifetime merry-go-round of starting and stopping. Then afterward, we can have feelings of failure, depression, sadness, anger and frustration that lead to us being in a place of self-doubt and insecurity. 

Not surprising, much of my coaching with clients tend to begin with the desire to start being responsible and organized in certain areas of life. The desire to change is real and the intentions are there. The challenge is to form new habits so that what has been started, will not be stopped or self-sabotaged and can move forward to the fulfillment of these set goals and then forward movement to new ones. 

“Starting towards a goal is not the problem… the not stopping is where coaching comes in as the big helper.”

Life Coach Michelle Dettman, Find the Sunshine

Here are some of the most common areas where my clients want help and accountability.  Coaching is all about helping you create a doable plan, accountability, guidance, encouragement, support:


  • Nutrition (Feeding our bodies properly)
  • Adequate Hydration
  • Working Out Consistently
  • Getting Enough Sleep
  • Self Care balanced with Caring For Others


  • Fellowship with others who share your faith
  • Regular Quiet Time
  • Prayer/Meditation
  • Participating in a study that grows your faith


  • Reducing Screen Time
  • Healthy Habits that reduce stress (journaling, meditating/praying, spending time in nature)
  • Enjoyable Hobbies (photography, knitting, sailing…)
  • Taking part in mind-stimulating activities (reading, taking a class, crossword puzzles, meaningful conversations)
  • Allowing space to be able to process through life’s situations


  • Freedom to express your feelings after mentally processing through life’s situations
  • Finding a healthy balance of feeling and freedom to let go
  • Ability to Cry, Laugh, Breathe.
  • Exhibiting Self Control – Showing respect for one’s self with your actions, as well as respect for those around you.


  • Emotional Availability
  • Effective Communication
  • Priority Setting
  • Connection and Growth


  • Fulfillment
  • Self Confidence
  • Calling vs. Career
  • Desired Outcome


  • Setting a Budget
  • Sticking with a Savings Plan
  • Reducing Debt
  • Tithing
  • Timely Bill Paying

Personal Life Coaching helps clients in one or all of the above areas. My ultimate goal as a coach is to help you plan out your start and remind you of your why so that you won’t want to stop. You can overcome the vicious cycle of starting and stopping.

Be a Sunshine Finder!

Together, we can do more,

Michelle Dettman

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